AFTER A BREAK-UP
“A different kind of closure”
This 4-session bundle is designed for those who want to learn from a past relationship (or several) so that they move forward with the confidence that they can create the love they want.
About break-ups … and possibly you
Break-ups, separation, divorce are moments of pain, confusion, helplessness and insecurity.
But they can also be moments of introspection and hope.
“What went wrong?”
“What could I have done differently?”
“How can I avoid this from happening in the future?”
In the aftermath of a relationship, many of us get glimpses of dynamics which were at work in our relationship. And, while we cannot change the past, we can prevent it from repeating itself.
Painful as it is, if you are among the brave ones who want to get a deeper understanding of what was, so that you can move forward with the confidence that you CAN create the love and connection you want, then this program is for you.
This also applies if you are not necessarily experiencing a separation now, but you still feel “hooked” to past relationships. It will help you get “unhooked” from the history and focused on the possibilities of the present.
The way I see it…
I’ve had my share of separations, so I know the gut-wrenching, heartbreaking, “I-don’t-see-a-reason-to-get-out-of-bed-today” kind of pain we are thrown into when that comes along.
But I also came to see that these moments can bring deep insights into what makes relationships work and what doesn’t as well as what it is that “I” can do to create and nourish them (and when need be, repair them).
In the wake of a separation, we get the distance we need to see ourselves and the other with a lot of objectivity and insight.
With guidance, we can discover:
* if our relationship was one of equality or not;
* if we kept the other at a distance or, the opposite, we lost ourself in them;
* if we compromised or, on the contrary, were too rigid in our ways;
* roles that we played and power games we unknowingly got involved in.
As we dive into these questions, we start unraveling our patterns of relating. Learned a long time ago and developed over years, they are driving from the back-seat all our relationships.
If we don’t unearth them, we will likely repeat the patterns and consequently invite a similar outcome.
On the other hand, if we do the work and clearly see our patterns, we become much more conscious in our next relationship (and there will be a next one, even if at the moment that seems unimaginable). That will give us better chances to create the love, connection, intimacy that we want.
Beautiful side effects of this process are also that:
* it supports the healing after the break-up and an opening to new love;
* it helps us separate with a good feeling;
* sometimes it can lead to reconnecting, but this time from a different place – one of consciousness and clarity, with better chances to build together the connection we were not able before.
So this package is about…
… Giving yourself the space to look with wisdom and insight into your relationship. Over the course of 4 weeks, I will help you unravel the inner workings of your past relationship.
I’d like you to know that I am deeply aware and moved by the need for grieving in a separation and I will support you with that. However, the focus of our work together will be on learning from what happened.
The process is never linear, but some things you can expect during these sessions is that I will support you:
* Review your relationship and understand the dynamics that were at work, as well as your contribution to that – your relating patterns.
* Understand the origin of your relating patterns and, as part of this process, I will help you become familiar with the three wounds we all bring in our relating (abandonment, engulfment and “I’m not good enough”) that are the causes for these patterns.
* Create ways to deal with these wounds, patterns, dynamics in your everyday life, so that you slowly become more confident in your ability to create connection and intimacy. This will feel much like getting again the reign over your life and opening yourself to new love.
Possible outcomes:
If you dive into this work with an open heart and sincere motivation, you can expect these changes in your life:
you will feel hopeful about the future and confident in your ability to create a relationship that works;
you will find it easier to heal from the separation;
there is a high chance hard feelings will be ironed out ( “separated” doesn’t have to mean “foes”);
under the right circumstances, a reconciliation with your ex-partner is possible. In that case, I recommend continuing the work with the “Relationship Impasse” bundle.
Practicalities
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THE PACKAGE
- 4 weekly sessions of apx. 90 min.
- Self-reflective and meditation exercises between sessions.
- Email support throughout the 4 weeks.
PRICE: 400-500 EUR
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FREE INTRO SESSSION
Before booking this package, I offer a free introductory session. Its purpose is for both of us to get a feel if we are a fit and if I can be of help.
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TOO BIG TO START WITH?
If booking one package feels like too big a commitment, I also offer you the option of booking one session following our introductory session.
PRICE: 140 EUR
What to expect from a session with me
I have developed my own style of working with people, in which I combine:
giving people an understanding of how relationships work
showing and practicing the tools for them to unlock their own wisdom regarding connection and intimacy.
the emotional, caring space for people to navigate the difficulties they experience.
My focus is on the present moment and finding ways forward in the “now”. However, I do believe that one major key to finding our wisdom is in understanding how our past influences our nowadays decisions, as well as a good connection with our inner child. So you can expect that as part of our work together.